A search for an answer

Fladian

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"I don't know."
What a simple conclusion, isn't it? It isn't in need of any supporting comments to prove how you came to that conclusion. It just simply states that you have no idea in that matter. It's a conclusion I don't try to avoid in a normal conversation, discussion or just plain out of the blue. In a serious discussion however, you'll rarely hear me say those words.

Out of experience, I learned that a few specific (forgein) friends of mine think the same way as me in this kind of situation. But it remains hard to get me serious enough to actually avoid a specific conclusion. We have been discussing about one single particular subject that I brought up. Though it is a simple question for someone who is not willing, or able to become serious in the matter, it is a hard question that forces the mind to work for a certain answer.
Whatever it was that made us think about it, it was enough to get me completely serious; something that I haven't been for years now because of a mere fictional subject.

"Imagine this. The younger sister of your best friend falls in love with you and you are pretty fond of her yourself. Yet your best friend, her older brother, tries everything to keep the two of you from getting together. What would you do in this situation?"

The question is simple and the many possible answers are not hard to think of. Yet it is a question that got the mind of two of my friends and myself in a serious state to discuss such a situation. For once, we constantly came to the conclusion of, "I don't know." In theory, the situation is very easy to solve, but how would the body function while under a pressure that much? We calculated the limits of our own body as far as we are familiar with it and still tried to think what we would do in our situation. No matter how we looked at the situation, we kept walking into a dead-end that would eventually leave (at least) one out of the three unhappy.

I opened this discussion with someone else today as well, who immediately asked if I was related to that situation. A question that might pop up by people here as well. Rest assured, it is fictional; I am not related to this, nor is anyone that I am familiar with.

How do you people think of it?
 
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Undead_Lives

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I dunno. :p
A lot of people (sometimes I am one of them) don't want to take the time to think of an appropriate answer. Some people (like me) have more important things to do.
 

Moagrim

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As long as she's not too much younger (maybe one or two years is ok) its fine but anythin else is kinda odd.Anyway if its a really good he wont mind,or if your a really good friend you'll try and give up on his lil' sister.Actually now that i've typed this i really dunno what i think...lol.
 

Alekill

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Well i think if the sister is to young or old it would be wierd and your freind would fell well ackward it would just be a differnt kind of relationship i think if the sister was older i think it would be tha same exept the sister wouldnt care what the freind said as much
But all i can say reely is i dontwant to get in that situation
 

Fladian

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When I mentioned "younger," I was only referring to her being younger than her brother, not necessarily being much older than yourself. Perhaps the people I already asked the question to took it as granted, but it looks like I'll have to point it out here.
When telling this, I was referring to people of my own age; for those who don't know to what age I am referring to, take a look at the twenties.

I have been discussing matter with someone others for a while now, while trying to figure out a way to keep everyone happy in this case. Though after talking about it for so long and constantly coming to a similar conclusion, we are just about running out of ideas.
The reason that we return with the same conclusion is likely related to our personalities. Using myself as an example, I am a caring person and is willing to put much at stake to get something done when being seirous, however very weak emotionally.

The question how good of a friend that friend (or her brother) is, is also a quickly asked question, yet something I cannot answer. I am convinced that I have a great friendship relation with a couple of people. But I can also (somehow) understand why they would refuse me into being with their/his sister.

Before anyone (again) is going to relate me to it. Three of my best friends have a sister... but ironically enough, they are all older than me with four years at a minimum.
But as Alekill said as well, "I don't want to get in that situation," is something I would like to agree upon. Though it is a situation you don't have much control over when it would happen.
"I don't have any influence on who I fall for."
 

Undead_Lives

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Well if you're in your early twenties and she's in her twenties then I see no real problem.
Only thing I would do would be talk to your friend before, see if he has a problem with it.
 

Alekill

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yes i i agree you dont have control over whom you fall for
and if say the too people are in ther 20's i think that is alot better than say a 17 year old with a 15 year old.
I think the older you get the more it becomes umm....more natural like my mom and dad are 11 years apart in age my dad being 52 and my mom 41 but thats justwierd for a 20 year old to be dating a 10 year old or a evan a 30 with a 20 but being that there older it seems more natural to me.
 

Fladian

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Well if you're in your early twenties and she's in her twenties then I see no real problem.
Only thing I would do would be talk to your friend before, see if he has a problem with it.
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Would you be able to? Theoretically, it sounds very easy. But do you think you can muster up the courage to step forward to that friend and say: "I'm together with your sister." Especially when he already mentioned more than often that you should not get together no matter what.
You see, I can't do that.

yes i i agree you dont have control over whom you fall for
and if say the too people are in ther 20's i think that is alot better than say a 17 year old with a 15 year old.
I think the older you get the more it becomes umm....more natural like my mom and dad are 11 years apart in age my dad being 52 and my mom 41 but thats justwierd for a 20 year old to be dating a 10 year old or a evan a 30 with a 20 but being that there older it seems more natural to me.
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Ironically, I spoke about the same thing a little while ago with a colleague at work about the same subject. Though I also threw the "I'm familiar with a guy of twenty three with a girl of fifteen," which made him a bit more quiet than I hoped for. I was hoping to discuss it a bit further with him, considering as he is more than thirty years older than I am. :p

But despite a small (or barely even visible) age difference, would you be able to get together with the sister of your best friend against the approval of that friend? And even if you could, would you feel perfectly fine with it?

actualy i would just find it wierd going out with a friends sister younger, older or same age
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I don't find it completely natural either, but like I said earlier, "I don't have control over who I fall for." If that happens to be the sister of my best friend, then so be it. I would like it not to happen, but when it does... yeah... well...
 
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Alekill

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they are both important things and huma n natur demands both
but personaly i would have to say it depends.. there are alot of factors to think about like how good of a freind you are with that person wether you think freindship or love is more important i think there is no true "right" answer it is all about what you think and not what other people think
 
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