Breaking up but remain friends

[Fladian]

It is generally known, that most relationships that don't work out conclude in the two people getting in a fight with each other and breaking up. I'm not saying it is rare to happen in a different way, but it is definitely less common. Now I am referring to the other part.

How would you feel about it? Breaking up with your girl/boyfriend but still remaining friends.

Several weeks ago, I spoke to two friends at school about it (it was just a subject that passed by) and what they thought of it. I am personally a giant supporter of breaking up but still remaining friends. One of those two friends had no particular opinion about it ("Does it matter?") but the other one gave a good one. She said that it would be quite weird. Because I didn't feel like asking why, I didn't. Several hours later that day I did ask why she would feel weird about it.
"Well, it just feels strange to me to first have a relationship, then break up but still visit each other just for the heck of it ("For a cup of thea" is what she literally said, but I think my words might be more accurate in English) because they remain friends. I certainly wouldn't have done it."
I must admit... she has a point. But I do wonder how others think about it.

 

[p\/\/l\l4G3 H4X0l2]

i think that breaking up but remaining friends is kind of really awkward because you can never forget about the relationship that you both had with him/her. so thats why i think its kind of weird if that happens...:zipit:

 

[Undead_Lives]

I think it's a good thing....but it's weird all the same....still, it will depend on the people, sometimes it works, sometimes not.

 

[Squishy-1]

it really depends on who the people are, and why they broke up through my friends (i dont breakup i move away my relationships tend to last) but if some one just says lets just be friends with no real reason the other person usually agrees but doesnt want that really and if they were mutual in wanting to break up they might like it but if one of the people (usually female) is obsessive they will chase them around
and then again theres "friends" if ya get my drift

 

[Hunter_destruction]

I know this is an old topic, but...
My girlfriend's ex is still friends with her.
I prefer it that way, because else, it would be awkward not being friends, else he'd just give us funny stares...

 

[Fladian]

Doesn't have to; they could live far apart, which is, nowadays, not very special anymore.

 

[Mavus]

IMO it's a good thing, I mean you must've enjoyed there company to go out with them first off right? You can just enjoy there company in a different way...

 

[Fladian]

Doesn't this strike you then, Mavus:

"Well, it just feels strange to me to first have a relationship, then break up but still visit each other just for the heck of it ("For a cup of thea" is what she literally said, but I think my words might be more accurate in English) because they remain friends. I certainly wouldn't have done it."

Hanging out with someone you've had something with, is a bit akward. I agree with her there.

 

[Mavus]

True, but would you rather not go out with someone just so you can remain friends? If so then you're missing many opportunities in your life... I doubt many stay friends but they should,

 

[Xeridanus]

i tried to stay friends with my ex-. it did not work at all. every converstaion just flared up into an argument, and it was hard to not do all those habits you pick up like little kissing/hugging icons when they leave or just stopping yourself from touching them when in person. i've been there, and it is just way too weird. i think it was fairly mutual when both of us decided (without telling the other mind you) that we would never talk to each other again. we just blocked each other and moved on. i've seen her twice at parties though (cos we have a lot of common friends) someimes i can't help myself from saying something to her. i always regret it. she never replied.

i have no idea how those young groups of people do it. just about everyone has a relationship with just about everyone else. it makes no sense to me what-so-ever. my sister recently broke up with her longtime bf of 6 months i think. yet they remain friends. it wasn't mutaul till a few days later when he agreed.

 

[Squishy-1]

it completely depends on the reason of the break up ie if i cought someone cheating on me they could screw themselves they are officially out of my life, but if it was just a lack of interest i would not hate them but if that was the case i obviously wouldnt be hanging out with them, because the lack of interest would still be present