EDIT: Yet again the quotes don't work!!! I'm gonna color the quoted parts.
Did you bring up my favorite subject on purpose?
Being afraid of rejection is something that is understandable, and I experienced the feeling for years, and I probably have some years coming as well, because I'm pretty sure the road I am heading to is a dead-end. But someone once told me: "What do you got to lose?" and it is something I kept closely in mind. Back then, five and three years ago, I cared a lot about my reputation and pride. Both played a large role in those situations. Five years ago, I was insanely popular at school, and there were only a few who didn't know me. Believe me, being as shy as I was back then, it is everything but funny. I didn't dare to confess because I was afraid of rejection and it won't hurt my reputation, but also my pride. I already felt very insecure during those times.
Three years ago, I messed it up as well, though in a different kind of way, but one I regret more. Me being popular lasted two years, after that, it became less until nobody really recognized me anymore. Once in a while someone asked me to bend my fingers again, but that's about it... unfortunately, I'm addicted to it now. But that's a different subject. Three years ago, my pride was important to me, and what finally messed me up. Nowadays, I don't care about my reputation in general anymore and I'm quite outgoing nowadays, in opposite of back then. I also don't really mind my pride anymore. It's something very trivial to me now and something I can finally throw off of myself now.
There is nothing to be afraid of... just see it as a new experience. Let's see... how did that quote go? "Every experience is a life experience."
Agreed. I don't believe it is possible to "love" someone without spending a certain amount of time with that person. Though I will definitely be proved wrong by a certain kind of religion - which I discussed only recently during class but can't remember the name of it, sorry - but that's understandable in this case. Of course, I am very willing to discuss about that subject alone, but I have to continue on.
Agreed again. Though I am familiar (family) with someone who also found its "bad things" about it as well, which probably was one of the factors that kept my shy. But that's only a minor detail nowadays. But I fully agree with "love is a good word, not a bad one" and the feeling "you should have one" is also indeed, "natural". Often - especially the first time, or at least, for me - it surprised those who haven't experienced it fully just yet. But I believe Warn. has already mentioned the necessary details.
Fully agreed. As a matter of fact, it has a name, a name people won't like actually. Because most, - here as well - are actually "running away from reality", though you are free to deny it. But lying to others and lying to yourself has its effects. Oh, as for me, yes, I am familiar with it. As a matter of fact, I went a step further than just "running away from reality". I made 'Fladian' a real person, and tried to forget 'Ed', both people who are only one person. That was ahh... two or three years ago, I think. But whether you like it or not, it is a fact that it counts for the most people that using computers and especially internet - using a forum is a good example - usually can be described as an escape from reality. Little people would honestly admit it as well, after all, if you could easily admit it, why trying to avoid it then?
As an addition to the "being alone only locks you up", I have something else to say. It also slows down the development of the human mind... most of the time. I won't even possibly deny that a friend of mine - who is a year younger than me - slowed his mind-development down because of anything like that, because I am afraid of all his knowledge. I expained this before...
Also, "to make them remove this feeling" is perhaps not as accurate as it could be. People try to forget about that feeling, which works... temporarily, for most. It's been a while since something very bad happened to me, and I believe that I made a change which could have made me a different person, but I used to, or still am, laughing away sorrows. Ignoring it, going quickly to something bigger and just laugh it off at the end. It works, alright. But not the way it is supposed to work. It'll all come back after some time... and taking care of one at the time is hard enough, it's crushing to get them all together.
True, though I can already see many people from here denying that. Well, not necessarily denying it, but disagreeing that's for sure. After all, during younger ages, most people are confident that they can handle just about any situation on his own.
I remember my own childhood good enough, but unfortunately, my childhood is not a good example. I'm a guy, like most know, so I'm using an average boy as an example. How often do you see a friendship relation between a boy and a girl? Rarely. During a young age, you could say boys and girls are different races. My own childhood is a bad example... my best friend was a girl.
In the end, you'll eventually learn that it is impossible to handle every situation on your own. There is nothing more I can add to that.
Perhaps old fashioned - but I am 
- but I still believe in "love"... and I'm just about willing to give everything up for it. To compare it with "pleasure, fun and passion" alone is not enough..
The first time I read this sentence - which was this morning, three minutes late before I had to catch my train, so I hurried - I read: "...find the right Tenglish word for it." It took me a while until I it hits me that it was a lil' mistake
"Love at first sight" is false. Though like I said earlier in this post, there is a relgion which will disagree with it. I'm not of that religion, on a side note... as for that matter, I don't believe in anything but myself.
Love at first sight is often produced out of lust, though not always, remember that. Lust, love and "passion" as you say are very different things of each other, often mixed up. Can I actually say the difference between them? No, but I can feel them. If what I experienced five years ago was lust or love, I don't know. It's too long ago for me to remember it carefully. But not a single day passes without me thinking of that girl... but I guess that's because I use a computer password named after her Hey, I like the name. My real name isn't Ed either, but I still use it
I don't know. I honestly don't know. That's why I don't understand how someone can be engaged with someone, without meeting that person first.
Not always. This is something I'll come back on later on.
A part, yes, but you could give it different definations.
Yeah, that's what I meant.
I envy that. I can't... not anymore. I can't stand being alone anymore either, but that's a different subject.
A different kind of alone, Undead.
Agreed, but also disagreed. You are safe from everything that comes, but you'll experience nothing. When you don't leave your house and just stay in your bed for all day long, it unlikely you'll get injured - uhhum... - but if you've done it like that all your life, you don't know what is to be injured. You don't know how it would feel and what could be done about it. To use injuries as example. Though there is a saying that says something like: "What you don't know, it can't harm you" (or something like that) it is true in every way. But at the cost of experiencing nothing is a price that is too high to pay... for everyone.
Good explanation, good example.
I did!!! I won about 2 euro.
It is something I miss as well when that subject comes to mind. Though I guess it helps a lot that I am often among girls that I know how everything goes. *sigh* Now if I only had some spare guts (*I promised never to approach girls that already have a healthy relationship*)
Not everyone is. One of my best friends has a relationship for uhhh... two - four years by now. I'm not completely sure, because I don't know when they started seeing each other exactly. What you say is common though, but this does not count for everyone.
If I had a healthy relationship at the moment, I probably couldn't stop talking about her, but that's just how my personality is. To use three girls as example I fell for. One of them was a tomboy and I doubt I would be the most spontanious of the two, another is, or was, (haven't seen her in two years) extremely shy, so I probably would have the 'word', often. The third, and last one I while mention is spontanious, but not very outgoing. A great asset to my own personality. Note: now you tell me. What's my type?
But I already promised, when I find the person I care for the most, I am willing to give up anything.
Agreed! Fully agreed
I couldn't agree more as a matter of fact! Not only do they cost way too much, it is the only time you can buy them.
...though I still like Christmas time...
Perhaps so, but a fitting explanation that could have been given in this case, so it'll do just fine. Though like I said, I am willing to discuss about it.
I recently was "attracted" to a girl at first sight. Well, not first sight actually, I remember her face from somewhere else, but don't got a clue from where. But the point just is, I didn't hear her talk because I never saw her among friends nor was it her beauty, because I know a lot of girls that I like a lot more when it comes to looks. Unfortunately, I am unable to step up to someone to talk without a reason, especially when I want to make a good first impression. So, I haven't talked to her. Whatever the sight of her does to me, I am not sure, but I don't believe in love at first sight and especially without knowing her at all.
Perhaps so, but this is English, Raiju. There are terms that are used here as well, which would not make sense in English as well, but they are not possible to use. So try to use the most common language here differently, or more properly then.
That too, but it also shelters you from any problems, so being safe, it is true.
There is not much to say in Daelin's matter, Raiju. You don't know any details about it, so it is not known if you are necessarily have to "rescue" him. That I 'theoreticly' have a girlfriend is one thing, but I, too never had a relationship, despite becoming more outgoing. But even though I never had a (proper) relationship, there would no way, or at least, not necessarily way to "rescue me", as you say.
Agreed, though it is easier said than done. I can tell, I have been as shy as h-e-l-l for more than seventeen years. The scar on my wrist, the motivation of DJ's and my desires changed me, though all three of them are something that is a rare motivation to find. The scar on my wrist was an accident, the DJ is my idol and someone I can listen to daily (okay, six days a week) and the desires in my heart is something different for every single human. But saying "don't let shyness dominate" is a good thing.
